I’m Marlena, a psychotherapist, international relationship coach and codependency expert. I have always loved love … only back then I didn’t realise that what I thought of love was actually toxic (later, I learnt that I was actually codependent).
I’d had enough of being lied to in my relationships, being pushed around, intimidated, cheated on, constantly put down and criticised, undermined, disregarded and emotionally neglected and abused.
I didn’t understand why men treated me the way they did - after all, I was ‘the good girl’ in my relationships: I didn’t nag, didn’t make a fuss, got on with things, bottled up my feelings, was as accommodating as possible, forgave bad behaviour so easily, rarely ever said no, did what was expected of me, didn’t ask for much, was easily pleased, was fiercely loyal and kept the peace …
I mean HOW much more easy-going could I possibly be?!
But it didn't work out. I was miserable and felt alone. I was DONE!
But instead of swearing off all men, I decided to empower myself to LEARN how to love and how to BE loved – the healthy, right, dream couple kinda way – NOT the way my parents, culture, and social circle had taught me was acceptable as a child.
After learning all about creating healthy relationships and going on to break my own toxic relationship patterns through what I learnt, I was able to not only teach my therapy clients how to overcome some of the same feelings, experiences, and codependent patterns I once had, but also attract MY DREAM soulmate.